CARIBBEAN TODAY V I E W P 0 Right man for her The right man for her is so elusive, for women are never satisfied, as men are loved, hated, reviled, cursed, despised, wanted, sought after, chased away, yet chased after by women. Women seem to be so confused when it comes to men, that either they don't know what they want, or don't want it when they have it. As usual, many New Year's Eve and Valentines' nights saw many attractive women out at functions, either by ili minI\ s, or in a collec- tive herd. Whatever, there they were, all dressed up on perhaps the most romantic nights of the year, with no man beside them. It is a com- mon scenario, and while I would not dare to ask them about their plight on that occasion, I have spoken to them at different times about their manless existence. For some it was by fate, for others it was by choice. Usually the response was the same, "I just can't find the right man, why can't the right man come into my life?" One lady, who was divorced twice, even told me that she wants to get married again, and that if the third one failed, she'd go at it a fourth time. "You see, I'm not one of those women who can live alone, I have my needs and I need a man to fulfill them, so I won't stop looking until I find the right man." The right man, there goes that term again. But what makes a right man, what sets him apart from other men, what makes him different? MADE MAN Well, the right man is rarely born, but is made. A young man growing up has to be molded the right way, steered in the right direc- tion if he is to become the future right TONY man. ROBINSON There are a few par- ents who recognize this and pass on these values to their sons. The mothers make sure that the boys are able to cook, sew on buttons if needs be, wash and iron, and generally take care of lhel, meyi re. As one old time mother told me, "I made sure that he could do all those things, so that he'd not be at the mercy of any woman." Can you imagine the fias- co if a man marries a woman who is as helpless as a fish on dry land? There they are, both of them in the house and nei- ther of them can do a damn thing to help tohL IN L, s, not even water they can boil, but have to depend on a maid or fast food for every single thing that passes through their mouth. It starts with simple chores, that eventually leads to independence, which then leads to self-confidence. The right man has man- ners, and that too has to be learned and cultivated from an early age. Over the past few months I chatted with a lot of people, and I heard sto- ries of young men coming to pick up young women that were simply horrific. One par- ent told me how this young man drove up to his gate to attend his daughter's sweet 16 party. The lad was dressed in a washrag type of tee shirt, torn I n T rolled up jeans, uncombed hair, and more rings through every part of his body than a circus freak. "Yow, yow dads, is Lisa party this, a ya so me and my crew a buss!" Now that must be every parents' nightmare, and he is certainly not the right man that most women are always seeking. But he wasn't born that way, so the twig is bent it grows, they say. RESPECT The right man respects his woman. I always find it strange how American black males have this habit of call- ing their women bitches and ho's. Our men don't use those said terms, but the lyrics of some of the songs are oftimes worse. This lack of respect towards women makes you wonder if those guys were spawned in a test tube. But then again, you'll say that some women respond to it and even call for it. 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